Mantra: I love me
Okay girls, listen up. If you are already in your late twenties, consider yourself not so attractive and are secretly running scared that you will never find a suitable man, then read this twice.
Your biggest enemy is yourself. Your biggest threat to getting a man isn’t that gorgeous gal in the upper floor, it’s you. Whenever you meet an attractive man you are giving away so many negative signals without being aware, signals that pass awful messages to him and put him off. One part of you is actively working to put down the rest of you. How on earth can you succeed under the circumstances?
Forget trying to get men for the next month or so. Focus on getting friendly with all parts of yourself first. I don’t care if you are 10 kilos overweight or ultra dark or too skinny or too short or too tall. I don’t care for your bust size or your hip size.
I just want to see your smile. I want to see if your eyes light up when you smile. I want to know if you are deeply content about yourself, I want to understand if you can make a man feel naturally cheerful and happy when you are around.
Many beautiful and drop-dead gorgeous women I have met and found lots of them to be deeply unhappy about themselves. They worry to death over trivial irrelevant issues. There’s never a moment when they are truly happy and content. Tons of men hover around them for their looks, but there is a hardly a relationship that lasts.
That’s because men will run behind the looks but will stay only with the heart. A beautiful face and body will invite lust, and once that runs its course men will reach out to the heart of the woman. When they find a disturbed, selfish and unhappy heart they will move on.
There is an inner beauty to a woman, which eventually far surpasses her outer beauty. Men notice both, give preference to the first but eventually go with the second. There is a reason for this. The nascent first impression of a woman is always the mother. A man remembers the love of his mother when he was a child and loves her back just as naturally. He didn’t notice her outer beauty then he just went with her inner beauty, her heart.
Now I am not asking you to clone your prospective boyfriends mother, or try and “mother” the poor chap (He is going to run far, far away if you do that). I am asking you to rejoin fragments of your personality so that your natural self may emerge. I want your heart to be whole. I want you to stop fighting within yourself.
Regardless of how you look I want you to start feeling good about yourself. I want you to radiate confidence and good cheer every day. I want you wake up in the morning and tell yourself that you love yourself just as you are, and that you are never going to be disturbed by what anyone — mirror included — thinks of you.
This exercise is the foundation of your future success. Regardless of how you look outside I want you to feel wonderful inside. That’s because you are wonderful inside. Aren’t you? Watch this space next week.
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