Deception isn’t bad, question the motive
I Feel no guilt whatsoever. Deception is nature’s way of protecting itself. Every animal in the world uses it. Even plants, worms and bacteria practise it. Inside your body, intruding parasites do their best to deceive their way in, and so do the sentinels, the white blood corpuscles that guard your health.
Deception is a science and art of life. No war has been won without it; no peace has been sustained without it either. It’s an inseparable part of the DNA code hardwired into every living thing. Why on earth can’t you practise it to get yourself a girlfriend?
Only moral science buffs tell us that to deceive is wrong. To deceive is life. Don’t get confused into thinking that “good boys” shouldn’t do it. This has nothing to do with being honest and truthful. Learning to deceive doesn’t make you an untrustworthy person of low moral fibre. It’s your reason to deceive that has to be questioned.
Your character and integrity come from your convictions, not from your strategies. Ask yourself: Why do I need to lie or deceive this person? If it’s for a commendable cause- like getting a girlfriend then it’s absolutely okay. If it’s for supporting a vice, for stealing or cheating, it’s absolutely wrong.
Learning to deceive people has another great advantage: It’s a form of protection when others try it on you. Your education and learning will never be complete until you have mastered the big deception strategies that are in our DNA — strategies that nature has provided all living things to help them attain goals and defend themselves from others.
Unfortunately no one teaches the art of deception. No university course has it in its curriculum. Yet it is one of the most important skills we all need to survive the fierce competitive world we live in. Our learning comes only after years of hard won experience — as we go through life, get cheated here and wounded there. After being exhausted and deflated, we begin to gain a sixth sense that someone is using a deceptive strategy on us.
Then there are guys who have turned it into a fine art. The big crash of 2008 happened because deception artists turned finance analysts (or was it the other way around) pulled off complex strategies on an unsuspecting world, squeezed the investors off their last dollars, and shocked the world economy into a downward slide. Now in retrospect we knew that the tell tale signs were there all along, only no one, not even the great financial gurus on TV, knew how to read them. So whether you want to turn into a con artist or want to protect yourself from one, you need to enter the world of deception, get comfortable, live and breathe there long enough to know its strategies. Whether you use it to get a girlfriend or win a business deal or confuse your opponents or whatever, you will never achieve your goals in life by going only the straight and narrow path. I am very passionate about this and you unwittingly kicked off a favourite topic of mine. Yes, I have been studying it in depth for decades now, and guess what — I might just take time off to write a book on it some day.
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