The big move
Actors Freida Pinto and Dev Patel, live together in LA
Moving in with your girlfriend? We find out what the decision means for a guy as there are both pros and cons. Playing house may seem like a daring, fun thing to do, but before you make the decision, make sure you’re ready for it.
Living together would be a sort of trial run of married life, feels musician Kishan Balaji, a drummer with Bengaluru band Galeej Gurus. “You’ll know what it’s going to be like to live with the person after marriage,” he says. But on the down side, it also means you will discover their annoying little habits. “You won’t have the same freedoms you have while living alone and who knows, your OCDs might clash,” he says adding, “Moving in together is a sign of your commitment, but in India, it really depends on how your family takes it, how her family takes it and whether you both are ready for such a big step.”
Model-turned-actor Shahwar Ali however feels, “There are no advantages to a live-in relationship. From what I’ve seen, these relationships end in six months because they’re free to quit anytime and walk out of it.” The hunk states, “In India, we still don’t see a live-in relationship as a permanent set-up. We still want to get married before starting a family, so a live-in is seen as a temporary situation. That can go wrong so I think it’s better to just take the plunge and get married instead if you’re serious about your partner.”
Rapper and actor Rakesh Adiga seconds him, saying, “A lot of things have become Westernised, but when it comes to a life partner, our society still can’t digest a live-in relationship because it’s against our so-called culture. And this conservative streak exists across all classes in India.” Personally however, Rakesh adds, “I don’t think there is anything wrong with moving in together before marriage. When love is blossoming, people try harder to make the relationship work.”
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