Break the ice
In Cocktail, Saif is unable to tell his mother about his girlfriend Deepika
This is one relationship problem you won’t learn to solve by watching Hollywood rom-coms — how to tell your parents. No matter how old you are when you find the girl you want to take home, it’s always a tough one breaking the news to parents. So, we speak to guys about the easiest, Indian ways to let them know about that special someone.
Drop a hint, or two. Model Zainn suggests, “Unless you’re completely open with your parents, it can be awkward to tell them you have a girlfriend or you’re dating someone. But if you keep talking about the same girl a lot, they’ll figure it out themselves. You don’t need to spell it out. And if you’re really serious, invite the girl home for coffee and introduce her to your parents. That’s a way to let them know she’s a keeper.”
If you aren’t comfortable enough to confide in your parents, “Choose the one you’re closer to. For me personally, that’s mom so I tell her and she tells my dad. If not your parents, you could always break the ice by talking to your sister or some other member of the family.”
If that doesn’t work either, DJ Anoop Absolute says, you’ve got to bite the bullet. “It’s easy for someone like me, who has a very open relationship with his parents. They know everything about me and they don’t care about a girl’s race, religion or caste. There’s no need to beat around the bush in such cases. But even if your folks are conservative, I think the best way to deal with it is straight talk.” You’ve got to be prepared for the consequences, however. Anoop adds, “You never know how they might react. So before you go announcing it, you’ve got to be sure that she’s the one. Also, are you in a stable position? You need to be able to support yourself and her, whether she’s working or not. So make sure of your own standing in life. Just in case your dad kicks you out!”
It’s not as bad as it sounds, actor Aditya Singh reassures. “Parents always want the best for you. But there is no guarantee that a relationship will work, even if it’s an arranged marriage. If the girl is of your own choosing, then at least your parents can’t be bla-med. And you’ll try that much harder,” he says. “In the end, I believe parents will come around because all they want is what’s best for you.”
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