Grrr power of girls
For all those who call Emotional Attayachar (EA) despicable on Facebook, yet can’t miss a single episode of voyeuristic pleasure that it provides, here is a validation. It has certainly made us realise one thing. Girls in the country are not be messed with for they are truly capable of unleasinh hell’s fury — even on national TV. Throwing plates, slapping their boyfriends, punching the camera and going full frontal on the abuses, girls today when angry are very, very angry.
Dr Samir Parikh, a psychiatrist, says that it’s not just women but also society on the whole has become highly aggressive in the past few years. “There is a change in work patterns and social systems. The frustration levels are high and the outlets very few, so people including women don’t know how to deal with it,” he tells us.
Resonating similar sentiments, psychologist Dr Navin Kumar says that the society is undergoing an inevitable transition when older support systems have been discarded and newer ones haven’t been discovered yet. “We are not a traditional Indian society and neither a fully urbanised one. The same thing happened with the US in the sixties, when everything was over the top as people didn’t understand how to deal with the empowerment and freedom,” he tells us citing the example of a herd of young elephants who when transferred to a new habitat turned violent. “The only solution apart from culling them was to introduce few elders in the habitat and since that day, the violence stopped. So, as we are changing, we need to find new outlets, channels and systems. There is no easy solution, but certainly being open about these issues of anger and frustration can help a lot,” he tells us.
Stemming from a recent incident when a mother threw her twins out of the window in frustration, it is clear that women are no longer willing to hide their anger. Clinical psychologist Dr Rajat Mitra agrees. “There is greater acceptance today about women expressing their anger, something which would have been a sacrilege 50 years ago. There is a growing tendency among women being as or more angry than the men, and even competing with them,” he says narrating a recent incident when he saw a female driver give complete chase to a guy who scraped both their cars, while he chose to do nothing about it.
However, indulging in joyous activities and not ignoring oneself can do a lot to keep anger in check. Mimi Basu Pals, an editor with a leading publishing house and a mother of a 10-year-old, says she makes it a point to spend time exclusively with her daughter. “We just went out to the library as she loves reading and often cook together. That de-stresses both of us. Though I would agree that it is very difficult to maintain a professional life along with a growing child at home,” she tells us, adding that she never lied to her daughter about spending alone time with her husband or her friends and now finally she understands that.
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