Life investments come before marriage goals Is sex an expression of love? You don’t just fritter away ‘love’ as a man-woman thing. Sex is as intense an expression of the emotion love, and as selective and exclusive as that rare feeling you have for the one person. When such a state is reached, it is natural to think of it on the basis of ‘happily ever after’.

However, here’s where I’d say go slow — there is a lot to be achieved before you get carried away. Marriage comes with a lot of responsibility and in the competitive age, it is always smarter to equip yourself with all the skills, talents and capabilities that you can build to fuel your ambition, before jumping into holy matrimony.
The pressure of sex. If a young lady wants to say ‘no’ to anything beyond kissing and caressing, she must not believe that it would appear prudish. A young man might not think himself ‘uncool’ if he wishes to be discerning and take his time with choosing a partner. On a practical note, it is a sexually liberated world. Since the society is becoming tolerant and accepting, the need for educating the young and impulsive is more urgent now than ever.

The implications of financial equality:
The financial equation between the sexes has changed. Equality in one has brought about an attitude of equality in the other space earlier thought of as a male thing - sex without commitment or the need for marriage. Medical advances in dealing with unwanted pregnancies have furthered the thinking.

Casual Sex:
Barack Obama says to his two daughters – ‘At the end of your life, when you look back, there are going to be two things you will remember. It’s going to be the love you had for friends and family and those moments when that love expressed itself.’ Indeed the operative word is love and the expression it makes for life’s memorable moments. That is why there is need to create awareness about the downsides of casual sex, apart from the moral aspects. However liberated times may be, society is still far from the stage where it’s like “Now that was good sex — burrrrp.”

Infidelity:
To be loved and cherished means adherence to sexual fidelity. One moment of carelessness and you find yourself abandoned, perennially insecure, emotionally dependent and facing a host of consequences. Consequences are an immense drain not only at an individual level but also an inconvenience to family and society.

Education:
Apart from bringing about awareness regarding consequences, education has a vast beneficial effect in promoting the right values at the right age when they are likely to be ingrained better. It is also the best means of reducing crimes of a sexual nature such as rape or eve-teasing in our times, when information is just a digital click away.
Even the caveman realised the benefits of a permanent attachment that came with a familiar face waiting for him at his cave. Imagine him returning home from a tough day of tackling a mammoth and then go looking for a lady date for dinner!! Every night!! That was probably when the fidelity bond was sealed. She got the steak home-delivered and he had his date for the night, and all the following nights too. Seems to have worked fine over millennia.