True friends still exist?
What happened to the friends you stood and stared with? What about the ones you met because you wanted to ‘hang out’ with them for no reason but that you liked each other? You may not have ‘loved’ each other instantly but grew fond of over time.
You may not have met because you wanted to network, raise money, sponge on, but because you wanted to chat, read, grow and know together. If all this sounds very old fashioned and not at all ‘cool’, my question is — What is cool? To have boyfriends who buy you presents, pick you up and drop you and spend on you so you can free-load until you find someone richer?
This may just be the kaliyug phenomenon in which love is the most easily abused word. Let’s not even get into loyalty and longevity. ‘Love you’ in today’s lingo usually means — I have X number of agendas with you because you are useful to me and I intend to milk you for all you’ve got and once I’m done with you, I’ll just evaporate.
This may sound harsh but if your friend’s hidden agenda is to get to know more people through you and to achieve more power socially, your friend is just a smooth speaking salesgirl. However rich or famous they are, people feel used. Salman Khan had allegedly called SRK a matlabi insaan or one who picks up the phone only when he needs people.
Friendship and bonding do exist, but just like the forest and trees — man himself seems to be denuding it. It is the trend of our times. I’m wondering if a time may come when, if we need a hug, we’ll have to turn on a robot.
I quote Vidhu Vinod Chopra, “I have no friends beyond an extended cinema family. My expectations from friendship are so great that in the present situation it is difficult to get a friend, because everybody is so self-centred and wants to use you in one way or the other.”
One can survive life better with a friend at hand. Even life’s most trying moments can be crossed over with uncomplicated friendships of spontaneity and action — where you could talk, laugh and not really care what you did because being together is more important than having an agenda. If you have a real friend, cling to him or her. Not a con man out to use you towards his hidden agenda. True friendships and relationships have no agenda. How do you solve this fast spreading epidemic? By quashing the ego that believes you are so attractive and engaging that everyone gravitates and loves you instantly. By waking up to the fact that it is not you but what you bring to the table that is attractive and by turning on our higher intelligence to survive the coming decades. And finally by tuning into one’s emotional intelligence with love, compassion, creativity, inspiration, and especially learning from these inspirational experiences.
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