A boy must understand his partner’s mood swings

It is like a well-guarded open secret. Everyone shies from it, yet we all know it exists! Men dread it and women sometimes pretend that they are among the chosen few that hormones don’t affect.

Hormones play havoc in a woman’s life more pronouncedly than a man’s, and many relationships struggle and fall apart because the ones in it don’t realise that hormones might be at the root of it. PMS is well known — women tend to get cranky, have mood changes, bouts of irritability and depression, and yes — suddenly get upset, once they approach the peak of their menstrual cycle.
Seventy-five percent women with regular menstrual cycles report unpleasant physical or psychological symptoms premenstrually, and for many women, the effects are mild and tolerable.
Men find it hard to imagine why a woman is upset, oversensitive or questioning their relationship at these times, and how could something have suddenly have gone wrong in a situation that was working perfectly! It is also believed that if the lady turns out to be a thyroid patient, the mood swings are even worse. As a woman, the best thing is to inform people close to you, those that aren’t sure what is going on in the days leading up to when you usually struggle. It helps people around reconcile to what may seem like irrational behaviour.
It helps to be honest — people will have more understanding and empathy and it will possibly help you overcome your struggles. Secondly, consider marking your days and know when it might become difficult. The good news here is that PMS is predictable in that it comes around the same time every month. Thirdly, women must be aware that emotions run high at this time, both partners need to counsel themselves, avoid confrontational topics in relationships. For a man the thing to watch out for is how bad it is for his woman, and for a woman, it becomes important to look out for her reactions, and maybe even speak to her doctor if she feels her reactions are too pronounced. Natural remedies can help make the situation easier and prevent a relationship from going bust.
Men, hormones can play havoc with a woman’s mood. Please be empathetic, and let your girlfriend or wife know that you are sorry that they don’t feel well. Let them know that you need them to get help or that you cannot continue to be in a relationship with them if they treat you abusively. The good news is that research at the University of Texas at Austin found that, at other times of the month, women felt more attractive when they had high levels of an oestrogen known as estradiol and acted upon those feelings. Research proves that a woman’s sex drive may also be controlled by parts of the brain that she has no control over.
It is important for women to understand themselves and work around their hormonal challenges. Men tend to view things more with a black and white vision, they tend to carve their definitions and do away with a woman’s ‘hormonal disturbances’ as excuses for them not confronting their duties! So yes, hormones are not for women alone, but also those men who don’t know ‘what the hell’ hits the equilibrium of their woman and resultantly their relationship every month with great regularity!