A pleasing photograph may get a man noticed but women seem to have the talent of spotting the not-so-good-looking men online as they feel that ugly men give themselves away in the way they write and describe themselves. Supporting this is a new study by Villanova University in Philadelphia that found that good-looking men were able to convey their confidence and attractiveness in their written self-description and the women were able to recognise their beauty without being shown the man’s photograph.
Content developer Saloni Sharma can relate to the survey and says that men who are attractive don’t have to try too hard as the confidence just flows through what they say and how they say it. “On the other hand, you can spot a wannabe in an instant. Overuse of ‘cool’, ‘dude’ and slangs is indicative of them trying to come across as desirable. Language is a key to decipher a personality of an individual. Also, people who often keep talking about themselves sound pretentious and slightly demented,” she says.
Attractive and confident individuals are usually good at selling themselves. If you’re a good writer you can wield the power of words to work in your favour regardless of how much your mirror loves you.
“On the contrary I would be suspicious of someone who wrote an alluring description of himself. It is quite possible that men who have had more luck with women in the past, and have gotten to know what women like in men, know what to write. So online dating world is their playground where they win unanimously,” explains Rajni Vashisht, who works with a publishing house.
Whereas software engineer Manas Bhardwaj believes that it is difficult to put anybody’s life into a dating profile. People seldom are all that they appear to be. That’s what makes the whole experience of online wooing and dating so exciting.
“What I feel is that being witty, interesting or curious in a nice way probably comes from confidence and makes people interested in you. Confident people are more attractive than insecure people. A touched-up photograph can only help if you have that confidence in you,” says Manas.