Dealing with death of a loved one is one of the hardest things to go through in life. Nonetheless, it is also unavoidable. Each one of us has gone through or will go through it at least one or more times in our lives. Oftentimes I have seen people who are so disturbed with this loss that somewhere they lose out on living their own lives after the death of their loved one.
Usually, the grief of the death of a loved one is defined in seven stages:
Shock and denial
Pain and guilt
Anger
Depression/loneliness/
reflection
The upward turn
Reconstruction
Hope and acceptance
This is completely normal to feel, but if one gets stuck in any of the first four stages, life for them as well as their loved ones can be pretty difficult then on.
In my practice I have met many people who are so lost in their grief of losing a loved one that their life gets stuck in that time and they find it very difficult to move on. So, the question then arises is, how does one really deal with the death and loss of a loved one?
I did some research among fellow healers and friends and came up with a few simple yet efficient ways to deal with this and here is what I want to share with you all.
n Let the person grieve: Don’t stop them from crying. Instead, lend them your shoulder to cry on. Just be there for them rather than trying to stop their tears from rolling down.
n Offer prayers to the soul of the dead and the family members who are grieving. Ask them if you can be of any help in whatever way (even if it’s sending them meals or buying groceries).
n Don’t put a time limit: You never know how long it may take for someone to come to terms with the death of a loved one. Encourage them to move on with life but if they have weak moments, don’t make them feel sadder by telling them not to grieve. Instead, have them remember the good times with the deceased loved one.
n Help them find a way to cope: Yes, it is difficult, but life has to move on. Give them a helping hand in doing so.
Take the person out of their home for some time, seek support groups if needed, then a counselor/healer who can help them get through this phase of life so that they move on to live the life that their deceased loved one would have wanted for them.
The writer is a certified practitioner of crystal healing and gridding. She is the founder of Soul Search, India. Send your queries to Sharmee on selfdecoder@gmail.com