Loss of freedom makes GenY wary of marriage

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Does tying the knot take away the independence of an individual? If a recent Supreme Court ruling is to be believed, it does.
While hearing a matrimonial dispute recently, a bench of Justices Deepak Verma and K.S. Radhakrishnan quipped that a person loses his or her independence after marriage. “Once a person is married, where is the question of independence? It is lost,” said the judge while hearing the dispute between a military officer and his estranged wife working with a software company.
In an age, when a good, comfortable life has become a priority, many youngsters feel instead of rushing into marriage it is good to be single. “Of course, marriage takes away your independence, comfort and also social life. You can’t think of going out with friends till the time you are through with your household chores,” says 25-year-old Apeksha Sharma, an MNC executive, who got married two-and-a-half years ago and is regretting her decision. “I could have waited for a few more years, earned a little more money and could have spent a little more time socialising. Now, I do nothing except managing the house, work and my few months old baby,” she says.
Agrees 32-year-old, Vaibhav Vishal, who would be getting married next week. “Though my parents were insisting that I marry ever since I turned 29, I stretched it for three years more. Once I get married, it won’t be only my life. My wife and her inputs would also become a part of it,” he says, adding that he wanted to live life on his own terms for sometime and thus he waited to get married.
There are some people who have happily tied the knot for sometime now and are loving it.
Actor Romit Raj, who got married two months ago, agrees that after marriage your way of living life becomes different. “There is always a flipside to the coin. For example, if you have to take friends out for dinner, there will be two options for the venue. But it can always be handled. And it becomes easier when the couple thinks the same way. Like in Tina’s (Romit’s wife) and my case we always think alike and thus never feel burdened to follow someone else’s decision,” he says.
He adds that one also become more “free to express love” after marriage.
Socialite Ramneek Pantal, contrary to the judge’s remarks, thinks that one becomes more independent after marriage.
“Before marriage, your parents look after your needs. Most of the time, a bachelor also has to answer different queries like ‘Where were you?’ or ‘Why are you so late?’ etc. But once you get married, the decision is more yours. You just need to inform your partner,” she sums up.