Filing for divorce even after a second marriage has now become a regular feature in city family courts, pointed out advocates. The reasons for such divorces vary, based on the age group of the couples, whether they are in their 30s or 40s. Some second divorces are due to couples hastily rushing into wedlock soon after a divorce in a hurry to ‘move on’ with life, they said.
“Couples in their 30s are making this mistake of marrying again too soon after a divorce, even before they can fully recover from the emotional trauma of a break-up. But within a year or two, differences and ego problems crop up again, taking the couples to court once more, where they opt for mutual divorce,” said family court advocate Anita Salabh Jain.
In the case of IIM graduate Ashok and his IITian wife Anuradha, both in their early 30s, their second marriage too ended in a mutual divorce. “After the first divorce, I had been on friendly terms with my first husband and we would call or greet each other occasionally. However, after his remarriage, his wife didn’t like us keeping in touch. I still remember my first break-up with regret. I feel had there been adequate counseling, our marriage could have been saved. This feeling affected my second marriage with Ashok and the rift grew. So, we decided to part ways through a mutual divorce,” said Anuradha.
When it comes to couples in their 40s, the reasons for the break-up are different. The differences stem mainly from physical incompatibility. Most of the women remarry for companionship at this age. They enter menopause and suffer from various gynaecological problems, while the men are still sexually active. This physical incompatibility is the main reason for divorce, despite second marriages at this age, informed lawyers.