A clichéd phrase, ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’ has assumed a renewed importance in the minds of youth these days. Previously many youngsters shied away from their pals, if they had a shameful past or a tryst with narcotics. But cut to today, and young people vouch for the liberation that speaking to group of friends gives them. Instead of visiting a counsellor or making regular trips to the shrink, many say they love the confines of their friend’s drawing room to open up and have a good cry.
Having friends with a similar mindset, it’s easier to open up and discuss your problems than go to a counsellor and be ‘guided’. Bhavil Thacker, a chartered accountancy student says, “It’s always easier to open up to a friend than to a shrink. The myth of guys getting together results in a mess doesn’t apply to my group. I remember how I was a tobacco addict and also overdid sheesha. My friends actually helped me overcome it by constantly talking me out of such situations and planning some other interesting things to do.”
Gangs of girls are capable of much more than just mere giggles and gossip. T. Alpa, a final year student says, “With a gang of girls meeting up, we are bound to gossip and discuss our lives and this is where the concept of group therapy comes in. And even if the issue needs professional help, I would want my friend to come along. It feels less controlled and its nicer to have someone stick up for you.”
Anjana Raju, a counsellor, says, “Peer counselling with a professional is always accepted, as it helps steer a conversation. With peers talking, it becomes easier for an addict to talk, rather than open up to an adult. I am getting many youngsters who are opting for group counselling rather than one-on-one sittings. Opening up to your pals might be beneficial but you need to watch out as might let you slip sometimes.”