Q My wife and I have been married for two-and-a-half years and we still do not enjoy our sex life. We are also going through some rough times in life. Often, I am too tired to have sex and lose my erection. How can we solve this problem and enjoy a healthy sex life?
You need to modify your lifestyle. A healthy sex life demands a healthy body and a healthy mind apart from a healthy partner and a healthy atmosphere. The rough times in your life and a demanding job had sapped your energy levels (physically and emotionally). The guilt about “not giving your best to your wife” makes matters worse. You may consult a counsellor to learn stress management and also practice yoga and meditation or prayer to reduce your stress levels. Try and eat nourishing food on time. Try and have sex after a period of rest instead of trying it at night when you are tired. Either you can sleep for an hour or two after your return from office and then have sex when your body is recouped, or get up a little early in the mornings and then have sex. After a good night’s rest your body will be fully recharged and
energised for sex.
Q I am a 24-year-old woman and I have been married for four months. Whenever my husband and I have sex, the next morning, I get a thick white discharge. Is this normal?
You seem to be having some infection of the vagina. From the description given by you about the discharge, you may be having a “candidosis / monilial” infection. However, you have not mentioned other symptoms. The cause of the infection is a yeast-like fungus. The infected woman may have itchy and swollen genitals. You need to be examined by a doctor and treated. Your partner should also be treated concurrently. Otherwise you will be re-infected.
The writer is a sexologist. You can mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com [1]
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