Why do men have one-night stands? The simple truth is that it is a major male sexual fantasy. A survey conducted by the Men’s Health magazine indicates that the average male would prefer to have 18 sex partners in his lifetime. Meanwhile, evolutionary psychologists are of the opinion that there may be a genetic basis. According to them, owing to sexual monotony, sexual passion dies in any long-term monogamous relationship. In such situations, the new sex partner rekindles the passion.
For both men and women, one-night stands can even be an ego booster. For men, it is a reward for success in their careers and for middle-aged women, one-night stands are a reaffirmation of their attractiveness.
Therefore, the big question is whether every man succumbs to temptation. The anthropologist Helen Fischer, in her book Anatomy of Love, calls this phenomenon the “physiology of adultery.” According to Fischer, people respond differently to novelty. Some avoid it. Some seek it out. She calls the latter as “sensation seekers.”
In addition, research has revealed that one-night stands are more likely to occur when a man is under the influence of drugs or alcohol and when he is in an unhappy relationship or between a divorce and the next marriage. The bottomline is that one-night stands are likely to be injurious to any marriage because one of the founding pillars of the marriage trust has been broken. Whatever reconciliation is attempted can only be like a broken mirror so the best way to avoid this problem, is to avoid the encounter itself.
The writer is a sexologist. You can mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com [1].
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