The new-age woman has shed her conventional thinking. For her, sexuality isn’t something to be ashamed of. When Gul Panag said this in the flick Turning 30, “Just because I slept with you, doesn’t mean I want to marry you,” it didn’t raise any eyebrows. In fact, many women nodded in approval.
If men can say it why not us? Not everybody is lucky to find his soulmate at one go, and getting physically intimate is not viewed as being promiscuous anymore.
Agrees Alankrita Dutta, a professional, who says, “Sometimes it’s all about sex and at times it is also a very comforting factor emotionally. It could be an emotional need for that night, and it does not imply that you have to marry the person you wake up with.”
Amit Sabharwall, entrepreneur, believes that the needs of women have changed with time. “It would be unfair to generalise it. It’s a small percentage, who have the looks, money, power, are independent, or who may have come out of a relationship who believe in this. Women, by large, want emotional care first, sex follows. Earlier, it was emotion + marriage + sex + kids, now God alone knows what they want,” he says.
To each his own, but, Richa Gupta, a PR professional, isn’t okay with this mindset. “I still belong to the ‘other’ set of women who want to be with one man. I don’t think sleeping with somebody will make you fall in love with them. Men anyhow are commitment phobic, now with women who feel no compulsion to marry following a physical connection, men would only feel jubilant that they don’t have to invest emotionally in a relationship anymore.”
She further adds, “This small percentage of women with an altered mindset don’t realise that they are fighting a lost battle. No man would ever share his woman, but women are now latching on to numerous men in the unrealistic belief that they don’t need to settle down with anybody.”
Why are we so hell bent on putting women into water-tight categories, asks Sonia Verma, a professional. “It is so typical to slot women into good and bad. Why be judgmental? You’d never judge a man if he had multiple partners?” she asks.
So, if you are game for some fun without the hassle of commitment, these ties are just up your street, but if you are the sensitive, clingy type, you are in for a heart break.