Happily single

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You will Meet a Tall Dark Stranger —Tadasmi’s first reaction when he first heard the title of this Woody Allen film was, “meh! Like that will make you happy!” Having been in and out of relationships, this young consultant from Delhi feels the only way to be happy is by first being happy with oneself. So are you single? But not looking to mingle? And yet your friends fix you up with strangers? Or do you secretly wish you had that special someone? Here some single people candidly share the joys and woes of being single.
Consultant Tadasmi Koul used to shy away from going to the movies alone when he was in college. “It was because everywhere I looked, I saw couples and it felt odd to be the only single guy. But it doesn’t matter anymore, as long as the movie isn’t boring,” says Tadasmi.
Nupur Kherdekar, 21, who loves her freedom, says, “It is very essential to find someone who gives you space and doesn’t tie you down. If you don’t find someone like that, then a relationship can be suffocating.”
Tadasmi, who believes love is spontaneous and cannot be planned says, “Friends try to fix me up all the time, but it feels forced and stilted conversations lead to nothing.”
And the ones who are recently out of a relationship, like Srikanth Iyer, 22, says, “My last relationship taught me what I don’t want from a relationship.”
Srikanth says he doesn’t like being answerable to his partner about his whereabouts. This outspoken film student shares why he ended his relationship. “The novelty of the person wore off and I stopped wanting to be extra nice for no apparent reason. After a certain point, things became boring and stale,” admits Srikanth.
But is there a pressure to be with someone? Does singledom get to them? Pallavi Paul, 23, says, “I am not in a relationship, and I don’t feel pressurised to be in one either. It will happen when it does. I am not averse to the idea of being in a relationship, but I don’t see why it is a necessity?”
Aakash Bhatia, 23, who has been in a relationship for over a year says, “I love to take care of my partner. The other person becomes a habit and it is comforting to know that someone is there through your thick and thin.” But when asked if he would rather be single, he cheekily admits, “Well, not today. But there are days I wish I were.”