Move on, learn to love yourself

Feb 03, 2013 - Anupam Kher

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I am a 26-year-old girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for the last six years. We belong to different castes. I’m a Brahmin while he is not. His parents agreed to the marriage easily. But I had to convince my parents. By the time they were ready, my boyfriend was not interested in marrying me. We had an intimate relationship and I even went for an abortion. Now, he says physical intimacy is not the basis nor reason enough to continue a relationship. I feel depressed and lost. He doesn’t respond to my calls. I’m unable to forget him. Please help.
Anonymous

A. I respect your feelings and admire the strength and love you have for someone even though he has shown you a very unkind side of him. I’m being generous with my comments regarding him only because I respect your feelings. But truth is staring you in the face. Leave him.
Your love, respect, support, friendship belongs to a man, a family who will treat you with the dignity you deserve. I know you may think I’m asking too much of you but in your destiny you are letting go of something small that’s pulling you down.
Yes, you will feel bad, but now you must move on. People come and go and things happen, be kind to yourself, be fair to yourself, love yourself, go out, be free, be around people who love and respect you, your family, your friends.
Let go of this relationship. It’s over. Let it go from your mind. You will have to make an effort. Start slowly. Give your love and respect to someone who reciprocates as generously as you do. Don’t take your love for granted. It’s precious! So are you. All the best!!

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