I’m a 21-year-old guy. I have never really had a drink in my life, although I have always been curious and have thought about trying it for the experience. Most of my friends have pretty crazy stories starting with “That time I got drunk,...” and some of those fun things they did. I would never imagine doing them sober but I think those things make for a better/more interesting life experience. Also, at social events, I tend to not loosen up as much as those who are drinking. I want to try alcohol. But my parents have been really good to me and if they come to know that I drink, they would be devastated. What should I do?
Anonymous
A. That’s a lot of conflict you are going through. I can imagine how tough it must be for you. I can understand the need to feel like having fun and being able to be as much fun as your friends. What you don’t need to worry about is being the shy one, because everyone has a different persona and that’s their power. I believe everything works in a circle. When you feel low and less sure of yourself, it’s an opportunity to reinvent yourself and then you will grow and feel empowered. And when you feel stagnant. again it’s time to reinvent.
Also, you are looking at the answers in the wrong place. Drinking alcohol seems like a solution to you but obviously it isn’t because it is creating another conflict. As an adult you can occasionally drink. But you need to address the issue correctly. There is a power in each of us and an inner voice that guides us. Always look for the right reasons to do things. There’s nothing wrong in having fun or drinking alcohol but there will be no discomfort in you if you weren’t doing it only because it makes you insecure. Always empower yourself rather than enslaving yourself. It’s important to be fair and honest towards oneself.
I’m a 20-year-old engineering student. I’m in love with one of my classmates who reciprocates but is afraid of her parents. If the situation remains the same, it would be difficult to take our relationship a step ahead toward marriage. What should I do?
Shree Vinayak
A. Well, I think you are very young. While love is beautiful and wonderful, getting married is bringing two families together and also bringing children into a secure household. Both of you need to focus on your life, career, personal growth and contribute with responsibility towards yourself, family and future. Don’t get ahead of yourself. Wait and grow and study. Live the way you should at your age. Respect the way she feels. Don’t take your parents or the parents of the person you love for granted because you can never match their contribution in their children’s lives.